For yourself, First

Wake up

Be sure that no one can make you succeed,

surpass nor distinguish,

All the choices are in your hands, begin from your own, from your own,

So, don’t rely completely on any one,

I always tell myself, no one will serve me the way I will serve myself,

Because the world is going fast now, no one is free for anyone,

And I mean here giving real support, that helps you develop…

If someone offered you his help, say “welcome”,

But don’t wait and care a lot for others support

Because they’re not yours, and you’re not their own,

So, you have to rely on yourself at first and foremost..

Don’t rely on the teacher to make you pass,

Don’t rely on one of your parents to make you happy,

Don’t rely on a friend to hear you all day and accept you,

Or on his help when you need him,

Don’t rely on the fitness trainer to lose weight,

Don’t rely on your relationships to meet your interests,

So, don’t be a naïve in dealing with life

It’s not as easy as you innocently think,

It needs you, you

Seek after what you want, battle for where you want to get to

Have trust in God,

God will send whom will help you

Attract them towards you,

Like signs, and you are here noticing it

To take reasons in count…

The world will serve you when you believe in yourself, have trust in your God, and with sincerity seek after your wants

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Wake up, wake up, wake up

The world’s race has started

Others began to achieve

And got ready to surpass and succeed

You must walk with determination like them,

Don’t let laziness nor comfort eat up your ambitions and fall

Get up O’ hero from your sleep, and extend your wings with confidence, glory and faith

How do you spend your free time?

I remember once in 2007 I was reading a book in self-development, there was a chapter about the characteristics of successful people and their uniqueness, as well as how to become one of them. It had a question that was “if you want to know what successful people do, then ask them how do they spend their free time and what do they do to enrich their time?”

I’m sure that you might be surprised of some people whom won’t tell you what they do, basically, they do have the right to do so. They know that they are in a world of unique people; therefore, no one of them wants to reveal his secrets. Trust me, you might find that they don’t have any secrets, nor a medicine to create their success. In fact, there are no secrets, but knowing what do you really want to become? and how to become that person whom you dream to become? And how long will it take? With some medicine of determination, persistence and challenge, also positive mind, you’ll reach what you want… So, do you know how to spend your free time?

By reading, going deep in your specialization for your future career; by exercising, developing your mind, expanding your horizon and absorption; by studies and other knowledge; by friends that enthuse your thoughts; by personal, expertise or practical career development training sessions; by communicating with relatives and asking about your love ones; by planning for your future; by surfing the web to gain benefit and entertainment.

Notice that I didn’t write negative things, it’s all positive, because we want to live by positive mentality, thoughts and actions.

Birds' Melody

The bird sang above my head a melody

Positively by hope

By sunrises on my face

My features are refreshed

And my eyes sparkle from it

My mind cries a scream in it

I will continue… I will continue

To achieve my goals I won’t be bored

This is my day, this is my moment

I will be someone special

By my smile

By my morals

By my appearance

By my mind

By my activeness

By my interest

By my love

By helping who needs me

I will be what I want to be

A special person

Other than that… I won’t be

Allah’oma give me the power to become what I want to become

Confused

Confused,

You can’t absorb what’s going on around you,

Everything is out of control,

You don’t get what you want,

You start thinking in failure,

Giving up and stopping,

Returning back instead of going forward..

What are you going to do?

Are you going to start to pshaw at life?

Cursing the circumstances and rules around you.

Are you going to start treating people cruelly,

Offence yourself and others, because you feel that you are confused!

Inspirational flick

A situation that will go,

A case that will change,

A moment that will alter,

Your weapon is your patience..

And to think more with yourself,

Sit with yourself an hour, or two,

And go deep with yourself..

And don’t forget to smile…because you are the most beautiful…

A message

Imagine with me this… you are in a car, and you want to travel to somewhere, you have small knowledge of the car’s functions.. okay?

You keep driving and driving, you don’t know where you are going, would you keep going?

Somewhere during your trip, you’ll stop and say to yourself: “why am I doing this?” “where am I going to?”… then you would have two choices, whether to give up on the trip, and lie down somewhere waiting for a miracle or you would grab the map and point your finger at somewhere and say “I want to go there” “ I will go there” “someday I will be there”

You my dear is in that point, you now have to make a choice, whether not to care about the trip (your life) and just waste it like that and lose many things in it or place the options in front of you and write down goals to achieve.

What kind of goals? It depends on your priorities. Sit and ask yourself, what matters in your life? And why does it matter?
Write down in a paper the most important things in your life, your mother? Your studies? Your relationship with God? And put your goals. There are many kinds of goals, short-terms (e.g. cleaning your room) and long-terms (e.g. having a college degree) Temporary (e.g. working on a project) and for infinite (e.g. going to heaven)

Back to the car, if you didn’t know the car’s functions, then you wouldn’t know how to use it when you need it. If you didn’t know what are you capable of then you won’t use your skills and abilities when you need them. Every one of us have powers like diamonds inside them, if we didn’t find those diamonds and polish them, then they will never be used.

For example, you have a talent in giving public speeches, but you never tried to do so, and one day you were forced to give one. Then you won’t be confident. Find your inner-powers and develop them. Don’t waste them, it’s as if you are not using the car’s air-condition in a very hot weather.

The time you spend in studying is going to benefit you in the future, for you will learn a lot and you’ll develop several points of views and gain knowledge that is going to help you in the future. The time that you are going to waste on playing is not going to give you something back in the future. When you are studying, reading, working on a project, it’s like investing your money in a bank, for, you are developing yourself. But wasting your time is like throwing your money on fancy dresses and cars and stuff that give you some joy for a short while. Then you will regret doing all that when you really need the money.

You is a person that needs you to care of, what is the most loveable thing about yourself?
What makes you happy?
What do you like the most about yourself?
What do you like the most about your friends?

The answers to these questions are not a matter of pass or fail, it’s the matter of how should you live your life, and how much do you appreciate life.

Stop whatever you are doing and sit with yourself in “a moment of truth”, be honest to yourself, you are the only one who can save yourself. We can throw to you a lifebuoy, but you decide whether to grab it or not.

May Allah help you on your studies.
Everything that was written was by the recommendations of Abdulaziz Dalloul. He read your message, but he is very busy. So, I’m replaying you on behalf of him.

There are no shortcuts

There are formal, organic and natural stages for cultivation of land; you, me and all of us always harvest what we plant, even if it took long. So, we keep plowing and watering in ourselves, to direct the seeds of our skills, abilities and way of thinking to what we care to have in our intellectual and practical life. If we didn’t harvest anything, then there must be stages that were done in a wrong way ; for a foiled plan, gives a foiled result. There are no shortcuts, even if you found, they will be just like bubbles; you enjoy watching them for moments, then they disappear. Most shortcuts lead to disappointment and frustration, so, keep plowing for achieving your dreams. Even if they were big, just believe that you can do it, have a strong faith that you can do it, because if you didn’t believe in yourself, and in your ability to achieve your goals, others won’t do that. As Doctor Wayne W. Dyer said “You'll See It When You Believe It”. You can have everything by starting to believe in yourself confirmative belief; that you can adapt and develop to reach a goal.

At the end, everything happens by God’s will; so, have faith in God, ask help from him and don’t balk.

Worrying about performance productivity

Often, we’re required in life and it’s expected of us to make out of the problems opportunities for change and facing difficulties; meaning, to think infinitely positively and optimistically, and surely facing the problems and solving them in a creative way, no matter what the costs were. To ease down our consciences, and move on to other cumulative problems in our lives, which makes us live in chaos, and not in a life that we deserve to enjoy.

With time passing by, life stir us with its different aspects; social, oneself, academic, financial and sensual to feelings of worry and heavy drain, feeling of guilt visits us for deficiency or negligence to any part; for example, if you gained weight because you cared more about studying, or started praying “far’idh” (i.e. Islamic duty) in the house, because you started being creative and worked an additional job or activity, and gave more effort in your career. Those examples might make you feel guilty and worried towards your life and priorities, and ask yourself the famous questions, till when am I staying like this?

The ambitious person is the only one who’s not known by words, for actions after the brave decisions are the only judge to whether this person is ambitious enough or just a talkative person. I think that it’s a heavy caliber word, if it was committed to . Each of us has his own ambitions, goals and dreams; we seek, risk and sacrifice in favor of achieving them, for excellence and succession to reach the summit. All of that can be motivating to continue the march on the superior line; what I call, unlimited creative break towards superiority, to please ourselves that we’re successful.

There are times when you become passionate in doing something, and you become enthused to blind in it and give it more effort and energy. You become happy and you enjoy what you are doing, then you exhaust yourself and spend your time in that thing and in the missions that tempt you to accomplish them and the joy of achieving them. Missions might increase more than what your expectations and you enroll in activities you never thought of getting involve in. Suddenly, you find that you are asked to achieve certain missions, report or a certain goal. Next, you start feeling tired, exhausted, anxious and nervous towards the huge amount of missions which are related to other missions. As if something is pulling you deep down, so, you are sinking and you don’t know where you are going. Some of the things that makes us anxious, completely exhausted and mentally drowsy; and I indicate here the meaning of the relation between mind and heart in daily decision making, for example:

- You wake up feeling tired.

- Feeling drowsy and having relaxed muscles.

- Feeling like avoiding others and staying alone.

- You use simulating drinks or food to cope with your work and extra activities

- You lose motivation or don’t receive it from others.

- You feel depressed although you are in control of the situation.

- You spend all your time at work, so no time is left for yourself or to give others anything.

The typical result out of these things are usually that you find yourself no longer caring about success; feeling drowsy, letdown, unenthused and lost your motivations. The most painful part is that the thing that you used to give your time, focus and care is no longer important to you. All that happens when you become imbalanced in your life aspects, your priorities and values.

Hani is a very smart senior engineering student, he has a high GPA (grade point average), his family is proud of his academic success. Moreover, he has good morals and a new BMW. Hani gave a lot of time and effort, especially in the academic side of his life; he gave countless efforts for that. But he admits that he has an imbalanced relationship with God, for he is not commit to praying in the mosque, he frequently skip it, also he has a weakness in communicating with others; he is not confident while talking with them, avoids relationships and family gatherings, he lacks a huge amount of skills and various self-abilities that lifts his value up when applying for a job. All that is, because of his focus on a certain thing in his life, later, Hani realized that he succeed in one aspect and failed in many other important and related aspects in his life. So, he decided to recount his life and balance between the different aspects to find complete self peace, confidence and getting ready to face anything that might intervene into his life, to produce more.

No matter how many times you failed in the past or lost your value, felt that your life is scattered and chaos around you, remember that you are supreme over these temporary things, your self is the weapon that never runs-out of supply; when your thoughts are refreshed, the giant within you is awaken, and the inner-energy is out, you’ll know your abilities and skills, and you’ll benefit from them, then you’ll become the one in-charge of your success’s progress, accomplishing your dreams and balancing between different aspects of your life.

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Don’t think of the past, for it doesn’t think of you,

Think of the future, for its waiting for you,

Don’t forget that you own this moment now,

So, really enjoy it and GO.